Being wanted isn’t enough, even when the attention is steady and the attraction is real. Desire alone doesn’t build anything sustainable. It doesn’t tell me how I’ll be treated when things get inconvenient, uncomfortable, or require effort beyond chemistry.
I’ve been wanted before. I’ve felt the pull, the interest, the way someone reaches for you when it feels good to have you close. But wanting someone and choosing them are not the same thing. Wanting is easy. Choosing shows up differently.
Being wanted doesn’t guarantee consistency. It doesn’t guarantee intention, follow-through, or emotional safety. It doesn’t mean someone is ready to meet you where you are instead of where it’s convenient for them. I’m not mistaking attraction for alignment anymore.
There were moments where being wanted felt flattering, validating, even comforting. But comfort without direction eventually becomes a question mark. And I’ve learned not to build on question marks.
I don’t need to be admired from a distance or desired without responsibility. I need presence that’s grounded, effort that’s mutual, and clarity that doesn’t disappear when things require more than chemistry.
So yes, being wanted mattered. It just wasn’t enough to make me stay.
Final Thought: Desire Without Direction Is Just Noise
Wanting someone doesn’t replace showing up for them.
Self-Awareness Clause
This isn’t dismissal or emotional detachment. It’s discernment. Being wanted feels good, but it isn’t a foundation. I didn’t leave because desire was missing. I left because intention was.