Tessa ReneeSelf-care gets marketed like face masks and bubble baths, but sometimes the most healing thing you can do has nothing to do with candles or cucumber water. Sometimes it looks like hitting “block” and finally setting down a weight you’ve been carrying too long.
I used to think self-care was always soft. Gentle. Indulgent. But the truth is, self-care is also firm. It’s deciding who gets access to me and who doesn’t. It’s choosing peace over performance. And when it came to you, I realized I was doing mental gymnastics to excuse behavior I would never tolerate from anyone else. That wasn’t care, that was self-abandonment.
So I stopped. I took back my energy. I pressed one button, and with it, I reclaimed hours of my life that I’d been wasting on overthinking, anxiety, and “what ifs.” Removing you didn’t just clear my notifications, it cleared my head.
And you know what? It wasn’t hard. It wasn’t the struggle I imagined it would be. It was relief. Like finally dropping bags I should’ve set down miles ago. It didn’t make me cruel. It made me honest. Because the truth was, I had already let go emotionally long before I let go digitally.
Blocking you wasn’t spite. It was self-care. It was choosing my well-being over my fear of looking “mean.” And honestly? It was the easiest, cleanest, most effective self-care move I’ve ever made.
Final Thought: Sometimes healing is as simple as hitting “block.”
Disclaimer: This is empowerment, not professional advice. Don’t confuse boundaries with avoidance of real growth.
Tessa Renee
