Tessa ReneeDear men, you love to complain that “chivalry is dead.” But let’s be honest because it didn’t just die. It was neglected, ignored, and buried by the very people who should’ve kept it alive. Somewhere along the line, holding doors turned into “she can get it herself,” planning dates turned into “wyd tonight?” and effort got traded for excuses.
Chivalry isn’t about outdated gender roles. It’s not about knights and maidens, or pretending women can’t handle life alone. It’s about consideration. It’s about effort. It’s about showing respect in action, not just words. Pulling out a chair, walking her to her car, checking that she got home safe, these aren’t ancient traditions, they’re timeless gestures. They say, I thought about you beyond myself.
The problem is, too many men decided those small acts weren’t “necessary” anymore. Somewhere, someone convinced you that romance is cheesy, that effort is simping, that consideration makes you weak. Wrong. It makes you memorable. It makes you stand out in a sea of men who can barely spell “effort.”
And here’s the kicker: women still want it. We notice when you take initiative, when you make us feel considered, when you do the little things no one asked you to do. You call it chivalry. We call it being intentional. And intentionality? That never goes out of style.
So the next time you complain that chivalry is dead, look in the mirror. Did you text her to make sure she got home? Did you actually plan the date instead of tossing her the mental load? Did you put your phone away at dinner? If not, you’re part of the funeral procession.
Tessa’s Final Thought:
Chivalry isn’t dead, it’s just waiting for men brave enough to resurrect it.
Disclaimer:
This series is for entertainment and perspective. Romance doesn’t require grand gestures, just consistent, thoughtful action.
Tessa Renee
