Tessa ReneeDear men, let’s draw the line once and for all: confidence and cockiness are not the same thing. One is magnetic, the other is exhausting. Confidence pulls people in, cockiness pushes them away and yet, too many of you still confuse the two.
Confidence is quiet assurance. It’s walking into a room knowing you don’t have to prove yourself. It’s being comfortable in your skin, letting your actions speak instead of overselling with your mouth. It’s making eye contact without turning it into a staring contest. It’s flirting without desperation. Confidence is secure, steady, attractive.
Cockiness, on the other hand, is loud insecurity. It’s bragging about your money, your car, your “hustle,” as if repeating it enough will make it impressive. It’s talking over her instead of listening. It’s “negging” because you think insults are flirting. It’s monopolizing attention because you’re afraid of fading into the background. Cockiness is fragile, needy, and tiring.
Here’s the truth: women can tell instantly which one you are. A confident man doesn’t need to tell us he’s confident, we feel it in the way he carries himself. A cocky man? He’s all talk, all performance, and no substance. And nothing makes a woman hit “read” faster than realizing the show doesn’t match the man.
So here’s the advice: let your presence do the talking. Listen as much as you speak. Compliment without expecting something back. Stand tall, stay grounded, and let consistency prove your value. Because confidence earns respect, while cockiness just earns screenshots in the group chat.
Tessa’s Final Thought:
Confidence is power. Cockiness is noise. Know the difference or get left on read.
Disclaimer:
This series is for entertainment and perspective. Self-assurance is magnetic, ego without depth is forgettable.
Tessa Renee
