When They Bring Up Their Ex Mid-Convo

Nothing torpedoes a vibe faster than the words “my ex.” You can be mid-flirt, mid-story, even mid-laugh and suddenly, it’s all about the ghost of relationships past. And unless we specifically asked? Nobody wanted that guest appearance.

The problem isn’t always the mention and sometimes context matters. The real violation is when it shifts the energy from “us” to “them.” When suddenly, I’m not connecting with you, I’m competing with the shadow of someone I’ve never met.

Maybe it’s casual, a random comparison. Maybe it’s bitter, a rant that spills into a therapy session. Maybe it’s wistful, a tone that says they’re not as over it as they think. No matter how it lands, it feels like a door slammed in the vibe’s face.

Because bringing up your ex doesn’t just change the subject, it changes the dynamic. It puts me in the awkward position of comforter, competitor, or unwilling audience. And none of those roles are attractive.

First dates aren’t therapy. New connections aren’t confessionals. Save the ex talk for later, much much later Because once that vibe slips, you can’t get it back.

Final Thought: If you’re still talking about them, you’re not ready for me.

Disclaimer: This is social observation, not dating rules. But seriously, leave your ex out of it.