Tessa ReneeDear men, let’s cut to it: if you don’t listen, you’re already losing. Women don’t need you to solve every problem or deliver a TED Talk in response to every sentence. We need you to hear us. To actually absorb what we’re saying instead of waiting for your turn to talk.
Listening is one of the most underrated forms of effort. You’d be shocked how many guys fail this test right out of the gate. She tells you her favorite coffee order, and you forget it by tomorrow. She mentions she hates horror movies, and your next “date night suggestion” is Saw 12. She talks about something that upset her, and instead of empathy, you roll out a lecture about what she “should’ve done.” Congratulations—you’ve just proven you weren’t listening.
The wild part? Listening is free. It doesn’t cost you a cent to remember the small details. To put your phone down when she’s talking. To ask follow-up questions that show you care. The smallest demonstration of attention can make her feel seen in ways a bouquet of flowers never will.
And don’t get it twisted, listening doesn’t mean nodding while you zone out. It means paying attention to tone, to body language, to the unsaid things between the lines. Real listening is presence. It’s respect. And it’s the difference between being the guy she rants about and the guy she rants to.
Women don’t leave men because of grand explosions. They leave because of thousands of small moments where they felt unheard. And once that pattern sets in, no amount of “but I love you” can fix it. If you’re not listening, you’re losing—and you won’t even realize it until it’s too late.
Tessa’s Final Thought:
Listening isn’t passive, it’s power. Miss the details, miss the girl.
Disclaimer:
This series is for entertainment and perspective. Communication is a two-way street, listening matters just as much as talking.
Tessa Renee
