Tessa ReneeDear men, let’s get something straight: ghosting is a choice. It’s not an accident, it’s not a “misunderstanding,” it’s not something you just slip into like a bad habit. It’s a deliberate decision to disappear instead of communicating like an adult. And once you make that choice? You don’t get to come back knocking as if nothing happened.
When you ghost, you send a loud message: my convenience is worth more than your clarity. You leave her hanging, questioning, re-reading old conversations, wondering if she did something wrong. Ghosting isn’t harmless, it’s cowardice dressed as silence. And it tells her exactly who you are: someone who avoids accountability.
But here’s the wild part, ghosters always try to come back. They circle back weeks or months later with a casual “hey stranger” or a lazy double-tap on an Instagram story, as if reappearing erases the disrespect. It doesn’t. Once you’ve vanished, you’ve shown her you can’t be trusted with consistency. If she’s smart, she won’t hand you the same access twice.
The truth is, people who ghost once will ghost again. The pattern doesn’t change just because you got bored, lonely, or nostalgic. You don’t get to disappear when it’s inconvenient, then return when it suits you. That’s not romance, that’s manipulation.
So if you’ve ghosted, don’t bother trying to resurrect what you killed. And if you’re tempted to give a ghoster another chance, remember: the first disappearance was the warning. The second will be the confirmation.
Tessa’s Final Thought:
Ghost me once, shame on you. Ghost me twice? Impossible because you won’t get the chance.
Disclaimer:
This series is for entertainment and perspective. Everyone deserves closure, not confusion. Don’t entertain repeat offenders.
Tessa Renee
