Dear Tessa: He Still Has His Ex’s Netflix Login

Crisis:
Dear Tessa, I just found out the guy I’m dating still uses his ex’s Netflix account. He laughs it off and says it’s “not a big deal,” but it feels weird. Am I overreacting?

— Third Wheel on Movie Night

Oh love. If his Friday night movie marathon still requires his ex’s password, then trust me, you’re not watching Love Is Blind, you’re watching Red Flag: The Series.

Here’s the thing: it’s not about Netflix. It’s about attachment. Every time he logs in, he’s literally typing his way back into her world. Maybe he thinks it’s harmless, maybe it’s “free streaming,” but the reality is it shows he’s still comfortable living off the leftovers of a past relationship. And you didn’t sign up to be the sequel to someone else’s subscription plan.

Let’s call it what it is: lazy and low-value. A grown man can pay $15.49 a month. If he can afford dates, drinks, and Wi-Fi, he can afford his own Netflix. What he can’t afford is making you feel like you’re competing with his ex every time the “Continue Watching” row pops up.

So no, you’re not overreacting. You’re recognizing that shared logins aren’t about streaming, they’re about strings. And you deserve someone who’s fully logged out of his past before pressing play on you.

Final Thought: If his ex is still footing the Netflix bill, then he’s not ready for a new leading lady. Cancel the subscription — and maybe the man.

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