Tessa ReneeFirst dates are all about energy. You don’t have to be perfect, but you do have to bring a vibe that says, I showed up, I care, and I’m here to connect. Which is why nothing derails a first date faster than weird energy.
Weird energy can be nervousness, sure, but often it’s more. It’s negativity. It’s arrogance. It’s being distracted by your phone, talking endlessly about yourself, or giving off the vibe that you’d rather be anywhere else. It’s that intangible tension that makes the other person think, this is off.
The violation is that it leaves no room for connection. First dates are fragile. They’re make-or-break moments. If you bring weird energy, you don’t just make a bad impression, you shut the door before it even has a chance to open.
The irony? Most weird energy comes from not being present. From trying too hard, or not trying at all. From forgetting that a first date isn’t a performance or an interrogation, it’s just two people seeing if their energies match.
The best way to pass the vibe check is simple: show up authentically, openly, and respectfully. Weird energy is avoidable. But once it shows up, it’s hard to shake off. And usually, it’s a one-and-done.
Final Thought: First dates don’t need perfection, they need presence. Leave the weird energy at home.
Disclaimer: This is reflection, not romance rules. Everyone has off days, just don’t make them the first impression.
Tessa Renee
