Dude, Please Don’t Flirt With Her If You’re Not Ready

There is nothin (and I mean nothing) more irritating than a man who thinks flirting is a personality trait instead of a responsibility.
Because here’s the truth most men never admit out loud:

Flirting is a promise.
Attention is a contract.
Consistency is the bare minimum.

If you’re gonna step into her space, give her butterflies, feed her curiosity, and pull her energy toward you, then you better show up with something more than convenience and half-charged intentions.

Soft Dom Tess is saying this with love, but also with a raised eyebrow and an “I’m not repeating myself” tone:

Dude, please don’t flirt with her if you’re not ready.

Not ready to communicate.
Not ready to be honest.
Not ready to match effort.
Not ready to be seen, chosen, or actually take her somewhere.
Not ready to give what you’re trying to spark.

She doesn’t need another man who plays with her emotions like a fidget toy.
She doesn’t need your attention if your actions embarrass it.
She doesn’t need your charm if your follow-through is nonexistent.

And she definitely doesn’t need you calling her “beautiful” one day and acting confused about what you want the next.

If you’re only flirting because you’re bored, lonely, or craving validation: stop.
If you’re only flirting because you like how she reacts: stop.
If you’re only flirting because you want to see if you still got it: stop.

Her heart is not a mirror for you to admire your reflection in.
Her time is not a sandbox for you to play indecisive in.
Her energy is not a disposable resource to pull from when you’re feeling empty.

Soft dom energy means this too:

If you want her, step up.
If you don’t, step back.
If you’re unsure, figure yourself out before you involve her.

A woman like her doesn’t need mixed signals disguised as chemistry.
She doesn’t need attention that collapses under pressure.
She doesn’t need a man who flirts like a prince but commits like a ghost.

If she’s soft with you, treat it as sacred.
If she lets you close, don’t waste it.
If she lets you flirt with her soul, not just her body, understand the privilege you’ve been given.

Because trust me babe if you’re not ready, someone else is.
And he’ll show up without hesitation, without games, without half-effort, without the emotional WiFi signal that keeps cutting out.

She deserves a man who isn’t intimidated by what he feels.
A man who wants her and actually admits it.
A man who doesn’t run from strong connection or hide behind weak communication.

So dude, seriously
Don’t spark something you’re afraid to hold.
Don’t touch her energy if your intentions aren’t steady.
Don’t flirt with her if you’re not ready for where that road leads.

Because she’s not a temporary distraction.
And you’re not going to get away with treating her like one.

Final Thought: Parting Command

If you can’t offer clarity, leave her alone. If you can’t offer consistency, don’t request her time. She’s not here for your half-hearted attempts — she deserves a man who steps in with purpose, not confusion. Step up or step out.

Disclaimer: Good intentions required. Bad behavior corrected.