Tessa ReneeSliding into DMs can be an art. Done right, it’s smooth, witty, and maybe even the start of something real. Done wrong, it’s a full-on vibe violation that earns you an instant screenshot in the group chat.
The worst DMs aren’t just awkward, they’re unnecessary. Random “hey” Out-of-nowhere comments on selfies that feel more creepy than complimentary. Or worse, an unsolicited message that’s so bold it turns charming into alarming.
The violation isn’t just in the message, it’s in the assumption. The assumption that access is owed, that attention is guaranteed, that showing up in someone’s inbox uninvited is somehow romantic. Newsflash: it’s not.
What makes a bad DM sting even more is how easy it is to avoid. If you wouldn’t say it face-to-face, don’t send it. If it makes you hesitate, delete it. If it’s something you wouldn’t want screenshotted, don’t hit send. Drafts exist for a reason.
The truth is, not every thought needs to be delivered. And sometimes the most respectful, vibe-preserving move you can make is leaving that DM where it belongs: unsent.
Final Thought: Not every thought deserves an inbox.
Disclaimer: This is humor, not hostility. Shoot your shot, just know when to hold fire.
Tessa Renee
