I Like Them More When They Don’t Like Me Back

I don’t always like them for who they are.

I like them for how hard they are to get.

There’s something about the distance, the inconsistency, the way they don’t fully give me what I want that pulls me in more than anything else. The less available they are, the more I find myself thinking about them.

And I hate that I know exactly what that means.

Because when someone does like me back, when they show up clearly, when they give me the attention I say I want, something in me pulls away. It feels too easy, too obvious, too available.

And I lose interest.

But when they don’t?

When I have to wonder, when I have to read between the lines, when I don’t fully have them, that’s when I’m all in. That’s when I’m paying attention, when I’m invested, when I’m trying to figure it out.

Because it feels like something to earn.

Like if I can get them to like me back, it means more. It feels more valuable, more real, more worth it. Even though deep down, I know that’s not actually true.

It’s just what I’m used to.

I’m used to chasing something that isn’t fully mine, to being pulled in by uncertainty, to wanting what feels just out of reach. And when something is given freely, without resistance, I don’t know how to value it the same way.

So I lean into what’s harder.

Even when it’s not better.

Even when it’s not healthy.

Even when it leaves me wanting more than it ever actually gives me.

Tessa’s Straight-Up Perspective

You don’t like them more.

You’re more attached to the feeling of not fully having them.

Final Thought: Divine Delulu Summary

Just because it’s harder to get doesn’t mean it’s worth more.

Sometimes it just means it’s not meant for you.

Disclaimer

This content is for reflection and emotional awareness, not professional advice. Everyone’s experiences and situations are different. Take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and always trust your own judgment and personal boundaries.