Tessa ReneeCrisis:
Dear Tessa, the guy I’ve been seeing for a couple months just told me he’s “not ready for a relationship.” He says he likes me but doesn’t want anything serious right now. Should I wait it out or walk away?
— Invested but Ignored
Ah, the timeless classic: “I’m not ready for a relationship.” Translation? “I’m not ready for a relationship with you.” Because trust me, if Beyoncé slid into his DMs tomorrow, he’d be ready with a ring by lunch.
Here’s the deal, “He’s not ready” is a polite way to keep you in the lineup without putting you on the roster. It’s a stall tactic. He gets the perks of your time, attention, and affection without the responsibility of calling it real. And you? You’re left hoping his “not ready” magically turns into “suddenly ready.” Spoiler: it rarely does.
The truth is, a man who wants you won’t risk losing you to “bad timing.” He’ll figure it out, he’ll step up, and he’ll claim you before someone else does. So if he’s telling you he’s not ready, believe him. Then move on before you waste another month playing therapist to a grown man’s indecision.
Final Thought: “Not ready” is just a softer way to say “not you.” Don’t wait for him to change his mind babe, change your options.
Disclaimer: Menace Mail is written with equal parts sarcasm, savage honesty, and a little too much iced coffee. These answers are not licensed therapy (shocking, I know), just unfiltered perspective. If it stings, maybe that’s the point. It is pure satire and for entertainment purposes only. The scenarios, “advice,” and commentary are exaggerated, over-the-top, and not meant to be taken literally. If you’re here for actual relationship guidance, you’re in the wrong inbox and on the wrong blog.
Tessa Renee
