It doesn’t start toxic.

It starts exciting.

There’s chemistry, attention, moments that feel real. They show up, they engage, they make it feel like something is building. And just when you start to relax into it, just when it begins to feel consistent…

They pull away.

The energy shifts, the effort drops, the communication changes. And suddenly, you’re left trying to figure out what happened to the version of them you just experienced.

So you lean in.

You try to get it back.

You text more, think more, analyze more, hoping to return to that initial connection that felt so easy. And right when you start to detach, right when you begin pulling your energy back…

They come back.

More attentive, more present, more engaged than before. Just enough to remind you of what it felt like in the beginning.

And the cycle repeats.

Push.

Pull.

Just enough closeness to keep you attached, just enough distance to keep you chasing. It creates a dynamic where you’re constantly trying to get back to something that was never consistent to begin with.

And that’s what keeps you hooked.

Because your brain starts associating them with that emotional high. The relief when they come back, the excitement when the energy returns, the feeling of finally getting what you thought you lost.

Even though you never really had it.

It wasn’t stable.

It was intermittent.

And intermittent connection feels stronger than it actually is.

Because you’re not experiencing consistency.

You’re experiencing contrast.

Tessa’s Straight-Up Perspective

They don’t give you enough to feel secure.

Just enough to keep you from leaving.

Final Thought: Divine Delulu Summary

The cycle isn’t connection.

It’s conditioning.

And once you see it, you can’t unsee it.

Disclaimer

This content is for reflection and emotional awareness, not professional advice. Everyone’s experiences and situations are different. Take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and always trust your own judgment and personal boundaries.